More Week 8-MKMMA 2017/18: Detachment With Love

To have unconditional love for all, means that we expect NOTHING in return.  I must pour out my love regardless of whether that love is returned back to me or not.

I am grateful and celebrate each day!  This is my 3rd year in the Masterkey Mastermind Alliance.  Last week, I wrote on self-love.  As a self-lover, I fully accept and love who I am.  I, also, love myself enough to continue to grow and improve on this journey of life.  I choose to have a love for all regardless of the actions or treatment of me or others I for whom I care.  Whether or not another human being is loving, I am loving.

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Make no mistake, I am self-righteous as a blue helper color code personality.  I want the world to be fair and idealistic, and I could work myself to the bone to make it that way.  However, in using S.M.A.R.T. goals is it truly realistic that I create this ultimate fair and idealistic Universe?  No.  I need to get specific on what piece of the pie I want to make my mark.  You can be, do, and have anything you want in life.  That being said, you can not be, do, and have everything at the same time.  (My subconscious mind wants that.   As endearing of a thought that is, I must guard with my conscious mind the focus of specificity which in turn keeps the purpose realistic and accomplishable.)

How is one to balance these two sides of thought especially when the first two principles of my faith are believing in the inherit worth and dignity of all people and justice, equality, and compassion in all human relations.  I can refer to Scroll II in Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in the World which I am reading everyday several times a day.  “I love all manners of men (and women) for each has qualities to be admired even though they may be hidden.  With love I tear down the wall of suspicion and hate which they have built round their hearts and in its place I build bridges so that my love may enter their souls.”

It continues, “how do I react to the actions of others?  With love.  For just as love is my weapon to open the hearts of men (and women), love is also my shield to repulse the arrows of hate and the spears of anger.  Adversity and discouragement beat against my new shield and become as the softest of rains.  My shield protects me in the market place and sustains me when I am alone.  It uplifts me in moments of despair yet it calms me in time of exultation.  It becomes stronger and more protective with use until one day I cast it aside and walk unencumbered among all manners of men (and women) and, when I do, my name is raised high on the pyramid of life.”

The above paragraph is Og Mandino giving the analogy of what I call detachment with love.  Human beings are motivated by his or her feelings when the feelings create energy, happiness, and love.  When one allows less than stellar feelings to enter the mind, it can have the opposite effect.  Who wants to feel less than stellar and less than motivated?  This means that we must choose to be the Mastermind of our own feelings!  Because human beings are created with emotions, there will be times when we feel those less than stellar ones come in such as fear, sadness, stress (aka anxiety), and anger.  Do you want those emotions to control you, or do you want to control them?  Our emotions come in play typically from a direct response from a stimulus.  If I allow a person whom I have interaction with to cause an emotion, I also have a choice to detach with love.  This means that I do not need to take on another’s problems, actions, or less than stellar emotions as part of my own.  Rather than allowing myself to be affected by someone else, I choose to be the cause and effect of all that is good in my world.

We all will face challenges in this journey of life to achieve our greatest wealth in all areas.  Everyone has times of loss and other life lessons.  We have a choice to focus on the blessings earned and applying our gained knowledge to build a greater life for ourselves and the future generations.  This is what I define as true love.

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I promise to live my definite major purpose everyday which provides my personal pivotal needs of liberty and true health.

I always keep my promises!

Golden Cathy Bea Hallihan

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Week 7-MKMMA 2017/18: Self Love

You can not truly share love with others if you are not giving yourself great and unconditional love!

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“I greet this day with love in my heart.” is the start of Scroll II and our repeated sentence throughout this scroll.  As you continue to read toward the end of the scroll Og Mandino writes, “And most of all I love myself.”  He continues in that paragraph to go over all the actions he does in order to display that love to himself.

In the MasterKey Mastermind Alliance, we all enter this Pay It Forward program taking our color code personality at http://www.colorcode.com.  I am a blue.  What does it mean to be a blue?  It means that my subconscious mind is pre-programmed to be a helper.  This is an amazingly great quality in business and in my personal life so long as I don’t take it to the extreme.  A helper must remember to be a helper of God or whomever you call the Higher Power of the Universe and a Self-Helper before you can effectively help anyone else.  I like to call myself a recovering obsessive-compulsive helper.

What is an OCD Helper?  As a helper personality, I get contacted so much throughout each day via phone, text, messenger on social media, e-mail, and the like.  I have people who ask for my opinion which is ironic as we are on the Mental Diet which tells us to refrain from having an opinion for a whole week.  I have many who reach out for help.  I must make sure that I am making good choices on whom to help and who to let help themselves or to fall in order to get the help that he or she needs.  As a helper, it is quite easy to lose track of yourself as you continually help others.  This, in the long run, is not helpful to anyone.  Life is like being a passenger on an airplane, you must put on your own oxygen mask first in order to help others.

I am grateful that we are regimented in our schedules.  As a secondary yellow which means that I enjoy my “fun” time, I offset the giving of my heart, soul, and mind in helping others with enjoyable activities which are beneficial to me and sometimes more than me as well.  I schedule time to be active or workout.  I schedule time with my son that is not focused on homework, reading, or cleaning the house.  All of those acts of service are acts of self-love and someone like me also needs to feel the love with some activities that are purely for enjoyment.  In caring about myself enough to take some down time, I more effectively execute all tasks whether being business related, mother duty related, friend related, church related or otherwise.

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(The above photo is my son as an Army Soldier for Halloween, and I was a Special Agent from “Men in Black”.  We love our fun time!)

If I do not take the time to show love to myself, I can hit the wall also known as the burnout factor.  I like to work with other go-getters whether they are high energy like me or my offset of laid-back, but still get it done.  All types of people are needed to make our world go round.  That being said, as I display love to myself, I choose to collaborate with those who will reciprocate my energy or at least maintain it.  There will always be people who may or may not be trying to drain your energy.  It is critical to have enough love for yourself to know how to participate (even if participating means refraining) with those interactions.  That is what I like to call detachment with love which is another action of self-love.  I will use that for a topic for the end of the week.

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I am grateful and celebrate each day and all people!

I promise to live my definite major purpose everyday which provides for my personal pivotal needs of liberty and true health!

I always keep my promises.

Golden Cathy Bea Hallihan

 

Week 6-MKMMA 2017/18: Habit Progress

Measuring Progress leads to success!

I can’t believe I only started my MasterKey Mastermind Alliance journey a mere two years ago.  If you would have told me when I first began this process all the amazing opportunities that would come into my life in 2015, I would have thought you were crazy.  I had a hard enough time just writing my DMP two years ago as I explain in my very first blog.

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Dictionary.com defines habit as “an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary”.  As I allow my logical brain to read this, I see the analogy that habit is in essence almost an addiction per se.  Let me just disclose that I fully acknowledge that the medical community at large may not have appreciation for that analogy.  

Pondering this analogy, my brain sees habits or addictions as ones that can be either helpful or harmful and some may go either way if not properly balanced.  For example, most people think of addictions as having negative impact as tends to happen with those who are addicted to drugs or alcohol.  Other addictions that may lead to more positive outcomes may be business or work success, healthy eating, and exercise.  That being said, these too can be taken to the extreme.  For example, the person who works so much that he or she no longer spends time with a spouse or children.  Healthy eating and exercise, could also go to the extreme were one goes from healthy to hurtful with a disorder.

How then, do we make sure that we maintain balance with the habits that are required to excel in everyday life especially for an entrepreneur like myself?  I don’t believe there is a precise right or wrong answer to this question.  What I can tell you helps me and everyone who I like to surround myself with or look up to is to schedule your day, week, month, and year.  What?!?!?!  How could I possibly do that?  In our MasterKey Experience, the recommendation is to work on scheduling for the entire week either Saturday or Sunday.  I like to do that, and I start each morning organizing the individual day as well as sometimes life throws us curve balls.  I also schedule out the major events of the month and year that fit into my DMP whether for spiritual time, myself and my son’s family life, and/or business.  I leave this flexibly planned with certain must accomplish slots and other slots that if the curve ball comes are not mandatory.

Some people need a very regimented schedule and that is how he or she thrives.  That is awesome.  When thrown a curve ball, this person executes and just sees it as a part of life.  For myself, I keep the flexible slots like a pediatrician leaving a few appointments in the week for newborn baby check-ups.  This way, when that unexpected ball comes my way, I don’t need to think twice about how to handle it.  Benjamin Franklin said, “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”  I AM NOT A FAILURE.  Could I be even more scheduled and organized?  Absolutely!  Have I seen this area improve?  Yes.  I allow it to continuely progress at as steady pace.  I find as a mother, if I keep the rigid scheduling that I had pre-child, I get more frustrated with myself.  I would rather feel accomplished over frustrated.

This progression allowed me to book a trip two weeks ago to the http://www.synergyglobalforum.com in New York City.  When I called about this amazing event with Sir Richard Branson, Simon Sinek, Gary Vee and more, we had a great conversation.  I told them the only thing that Richard Branson has on me is more time in business, and he is not a single mom.  We both chuckled, and they made me an ambassador for the event and company.  What does this mean?  Any event that they host that you’d like to attend, I can provide you with a discount if you purchase directly from me.  How can you accomplish this?  Reach out to me via text at 312.671.0272 or call and I will get back to you.  E-mail also works.  I do respond to e-mail less quickly as I get paid to be on the phone or in person for my business endeavors.  My e-mail is cathyhallihan@gmail.com.

The other great part of the conversations was them telling me, “you are speaking on our stage next year!”  I responded, “I am speaking on your stage next year!”  Many people would question if one year fits into a S.M.A.R.T. goal meaning Specific (yes), Measurable (yes), Achievable (100% yes to me.  Ignore the negative nellies my friends!), Achievable (Absolutely to me.  Those who don’t support you don’t belong in your circle.) Timely (Yes.  I, also, know that if I make a huge progression and it takes me two or three years.  Who cares?  I would rather set the bar at one year and work hard than 3 years and slack off.  Other people, need the 3 years with the rigid plan.  This is different for how to maximize your effectiveness with the brains response to a stimuli otherwise known as motivation.)

With my network marketing, I am super excited that my life essential service business has launched electricity in my home state of Illinois.  I have started further growth with my local team.  I also launched a business where I help people turn his or her mobile phone into an ATM machine.  I do this by teaching him or her to learn to earn like the banks do through the foreign exchange.

I have expanded my writing, and I am also putting together more options to help others virtually thorough the use of technology.  I am growing to love technology more an more.  After all, it helps me stay connected to you!

I promise to live my definite major purpose everyday which provides for my personal pivotal needs of liberty and true health.

I always keep my promises.

Golden Cathy Bea Hallihan

WEEK 5-MKMMA 2017/18: New Habits

As we are finishing up the first month of my third year as a Lifetime Member of the MasterKey Mastermind Alliance also known as the #MasterKeyExperience, it may appear that I have mad a poor habit of falling off the Universe.

Appearances can be deceiving.  Two people can look at the same painting and notice different details, two children can be born to the same parents and have a different relationship, and two siblings that are twins can indeed look nothing a like.

As is the usual pace of my life since starting the MasterKey MasterMind Alliance with Mark Januszewski and Davene Januszewski, I get more work coming my way than I could possibly do at the same time.  The biggest challenge about all of the blessings coming my way is I have learned to say no to opportunities that are fabulous, but do not match my DMP.  I am very fortunate in the fact that God or the Powers of the Universe if you prefer that title, has given me not just one gift, but a whole arsenal of gifts.  I have had people outright call me “gifted”.  I have learned to stop feeling uncomfortable about that term and instead own it with self-love and respond with “thank you.”  As a Blue, Helper Personality, I make sure that the person giving me a compliment also realizes how gifted they are with his or her strength!

Some other new habits that I am proud to be sticking to is doing a nice job of putting myself and my son as priority and saying no to others close to me outside of that circle including other family members.  I am a single mom raising an 8 year old boy, and I have more than the recommended seven streams of income for wealth.  In fact, there are times when I take inventory to decide if I can get rid of some.  It is like chess to me.  I am the Queen or as I am known on Social Media, the #QueenBea.  As nice as a King sounds, that piece is pretty useless on a chess board so I am not looking at that.  The knights and rooks are quite useful so those businesses need to stay.  Any pawn businesses need to be removed.  What if I believe the pawn is really a Queen in Training?  Then, I hold onto the business and work it at my own pace as I do all of my businesses.

One can not successfully work multiple businesses at the same time.  How do I do it?  I schedule my time just like I do for clients.  An hour or two on each business.  Sometimes, even 30 minutes is better than 0 minutes.  I also schedule my Spiritual time, my time with my son, my active or exercise time, and am now putting friends in the position to pay for my services as I am not a FREE business woman.  It is okay for me to donate time to a charity or a little time to help a friend.  That being said, when a friend talks to me as much as if he or she has hired me to be their Life Strategist also known as a Wealthy & Life Coach, I need to make it clear that I am paid for those services, and I happily offer a friends and family discount.

The below picture shows the super fun Mother-Son Hoedown from my son’s school.  We had a blast with the quality time, socializing, and dancing together!

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I am grateful and celebrate each day, my personal progress, and the progress of both my program and my businesses.

I am thankful that I incorporate creativity and fun into business as I don’t enjoy dull, monotonous, and generally boring work.  To celebrate creativity, I have inserted the “Prince” video below.  I hope that you all enjoy a little time for work and play!

 

I promise to live my definite major purpose everyday which provides me with my personal pivotal needs of Liberty & True Health.

I always keep my promises!  Golden Cathy Bea Hallihan

 

 

Week 4: MKMMA 2016/17-Giving Kindness

I give kindness as much as possible in my life.  When I see that I can do better, I take accountability.  I am moving slower with my blogs this year.  This week, I need to share the kindness with myself to get my week 5 blog out as well.

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The funny thing as we talk about giving is I have had many people ask me over the last two weeks if I am always this kind.  I say thank you, and my goal is always to lead with kindness and love.  You find a domino effect occur from this.  This is the whole law of giving.  In essence, what you give out will come back to you.  Many times, it comes back greater if you keep your eyes and ears open.

What are you giving to the world today?  We each have something.  I give kindness, love, and encouragement as much as possible.  I give gratitude and acknowledgement.  I give regardless of whether or not it comes back as that is a part of love.

I am grateful and celebrate each day.

I promise to live and give to my definite major purpose which provides me with my personal pivotal needs of liberty & true health.

I always keep my promises.  Cathy

Week 2: MKMMA 2016/2017 Personal Pivotal Needs

Okay, so I am behind in my blogging which is not part of the good habits.  However, I do forgive myself.  Part of my journey last year was definitely realizing that driving to perfection is wonderful, but we are perfectly evolving human beings doing more to be a better version of ourselves.  It is that time of year with large weather changes in Chicago throughout the day.  For me, that seems to be the hard time for allergies in the early fall especially as well as late spring.  Although my duration of sleep has been good, I was not waking up well rested.  Is it possible to push past that…yes.  However, that continues a viscous cycle of a lack of care.  With health and wellness being one of my endeavors, I need to make sure that I am taking care of my own as one of my personal pivotal needs is true health.

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Going through this program a second time had me lean in more to autonomy versus liberty.  Last year, I was listening to that cast in the airport and remember being on the border of liberty and recognition for creative expression.  The good news is no matter which personal pivotal needs you choose, you will find that you indeed get them all after accomplishing your chosen two.  What I noticed this year is liberty, the financial freedom for which most people desire versus autonomy being the ability to come and go as you please.  Autonomy is more important to me.  I can not buy back time with my son to handle the responsibilities with him.  Even some day, when he is an adult, I would still rather have freedom with my schedule over a little more money.  The good news is that these needs come as a package deal.

I gratefully realized that I really have my needs met.  Now it is a matter of manifesting them in a great abundance.

I am grateful and celebrate life everyday!

I promise to live my definite major purpose everyday which provides my personal pivotal needs of true health & autonomy!

I always keep my promises.  Cathy

Post MKMMA 2016: The Big Secret is…..Law of Attraction is not a Secret!

Oh My!  Has Positive Mental Attitude Cathy Turned Into a Balloon Popper?

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The Law of Attraction seems to be the “new in thing”.  Do you believe there is a secret to it?  Thinking maybe there exists a underground society that knows how to use it while you don’t?  My logic has always displayed the “like attracts like” concept.  Let’s think here.  If you are a positive person, how appealing is it to be in a room of negative people?  If you are an adventurous person, do you want to go on vacation with a couch potato or another adventurer?  I see it as part of the Law of Growth which is what you think about grows which leads to the Law of Attraction.

What you see in others you have in yourself.  It is true.  All people have qualities that are to be admired and room to improve.  With the good qualities, my MasterKey Mastermind Alliance has taught me to recognize, relate, assimilate, and apply.  That is not break through rocket science.  It is just something that I needed to hear and apply.  The not-so-secret secret of life is about doing the work.  I think that most people understand you get out of life what you put into it.  That being said, this program has given me more like-minded individuals, more tools for improvement and success in all areas of life, and the real work to get there.

There are many great things that I was doing previous to the Masterkey Mastermind Alliance, and I was doing well in life.  Previous to the MasterKeys, I had and still do have a wonderful life accountability partner and am someone else’s.  I would wake-up early almost everyday and read meaningful literature.  I had taken a solid inventory of myself and knew exactly how my color code personality test would come up before taking it because I knew myself.  I chose happiness everyday, but sometimes those life challenges aka hero’s journeys were still rough.  I met with like-minded individuals regularly.  I followed so many great guidelines in life.  However, I am always looking to evolve to the next level.  With the Masterkey Mastermind Alliance, I have learned how to retrain my subconscious mind through focused and intentional exercises aka work, and I now have turned many weaknesses into strengths which makes me so proud.   This is in addition to a plethera of amazing literature and information.  I, also, have a fabulous like-minded Mastermind partner and have had wonderful personal connections with many others in our alliance.  Just like the very first scroll from Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in the World, I have mastered many new good habits, and “if I must be a slave to habit, let me be a slave to good habits.”  I am a constantly improving and evolving perfectly, imperfect human being.

I AM WHOLE, PERFECT, STRONG, POWERFUL, LOVING, HARMONIOUS, AND HAPPY!

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(The beautiful picture above was made by a fellow Masterkey friend, Daniel Bozza.)

 

I am so in the flow of the Universe and myself.  I feel the harmony in all areas.  I am grateful and celebrate life everyday!  What have I personally had in the last week since I have written?  Business is picking up in all of my endeavors.  I can’t wait to officially announce some new programming that I am starting, but I need to finalize the details first.  My son is turning into such a little man helping me as much as possible, making his bed everyday, utilizing his independent thinking to make good choices in his own evolution, and we did our first 5K run together.  I am so proud of him!  He chose to run 5K over a kids dash.  I taught him run/walk etiquette for the safety, well-being, and consideration of us and those around us.  He ran 65-70% of the time walking in intervals for the other 30-35%.  The 5K that we ran raised money for STEM and athletics at his school.  We have decided that we will pick a 5K a month in the nice weather that raises money for children or family causes.  I am a firm believer that the best thing that you can do as a parent is be a good example.

Mommy and Tyler First 5K

This month’s scroll is “Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.”  I am a visual and kinesthetic learner.  Og creates some great word pictures that I am sharing with you that resonate with me.

“I am liken to a grain of wheat which faces one of three futures.  The wheat can be placed in a sack and dumped in a stall until it is fed to a swine.  Or it can be ground to flour and made into bread.  Or it can be placed in the earth and allowed to grow until its golden head divides and produces a thousand grains from the one.”

“I am liken to a grain of wheat with one difference.  The wheat cannot choose whether it be fed to swine, ground for bread, or planted to multiply.  I have a choice and I will not let my life be fed to swine nor will I let it be ground under the rocks of failure and despair to be broken open and devoured by the will of others.”

“TODAY I WILL MULTIPLY MY VALUE A HUNDREDFOLD.”

“To grow and multiply it is necessary to plant the wheat grain in the darkness of the earth and my failures, my dispairs, my ignorance, and my inabilities are the darkness in which I have been planted in order to ripen.  Now, like the wheat grain which will sprout and blossom only if it is nurtured with rain and sun and warm winds, I too must nurture my body and mind to fulfill my dreams.  But to grow to full stature the wheat must wait on the whims of nature.  I need not wait for I have the power to choose my own destiny.”

 

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He continues, “The height of my goals will not hold me in awe though I may stumble often before they are reached.  If I stumble I will rise and my falls will not concern me for all men (and women) must stumble often to reach the hearth.  Only a worm is free from the worry of stumbling.  I am not a worm.  I am not an onion plant.  I am not a sheep.  I am a man (woman in my case).  Let others build a cave with their clay.  I will build a castle with mine.”

“TODAY I WILL MULTIPLY MY VALUE A HUNDREDFOLD.”

I promise to live my definite major purpose which provides my personal pivotal needs of liberty and true health.

I always keep my promises.  Cathy

Today and everyday, I am grateful and celebrate life!