I will let you in on a little secret. The comfort zone has really been expanding since week 1. Although we actively talked about this subject and I have put some personal though into it, the fact is the stretching of the comfort zone began the very first week.
When I entered the MKMMA program, I had a regular morning routine of reading. I also took some time to myself whether in silence or to write, but not for the 15-30 minutes of silence. I along with others have been adding other exercises and routines in my daily life. I would be a liar if I said that I had it down pat. However, every thing in life is about progressing and evolving. That is why I like that we expand the comfort zone. It makes sense.
You’ll hear the phrase that you have to jump out of your comfort zone to be successful in getting the life that you want. Is that realistic? When I think about that as a certified S.C.U.B.A. diver, I don’t just jump off the boat and go for it. I need to check my tools. How full is my oxygen tank and is it properly connected? Is my regulator working? Do I have my octopus (spare regulator) handy where I can reach it if necessary? Is the inflation of my BCD working? I wear a snorkel so I don’t need to waste oxygen on the surface, etc. The tools of expanding our comfort zone are the feelings that keep some in the comfort zone fear, anger, unworthiness, guilt, and hurt feelings. How can these be tools you may ask? The law of dual thought allows us to attach any feeling to a thought. Let’s look at the positive feelings that can be obtained from these tools.
Fear: When we are in fear, we find that we have heightened energy, concentration, and focus. We have a choice to use the benefits of fear as a tool to drive us forward in our goals.
Anger: which is also sadness turned inward, gives us a great burst of energy. Rather than wasting the energy stewing on a person or a situation, we can choose to use that energy to create the life that we desire.
Unworthiness: Keeps us on track. We are worthy of anything that we want, but we can not have everything at the same time. We may that we have overbooked ourselves and need to reprioritize. Another thing is we realize that we are not focusing on the main thing to reach our definite major purpose and need to get off the side road and back onto the highway.
Guilt: Is a validation of the good in us. When we feel guilty it means that we know what to do and how to do it. Don’t waste a minute feeling bad. Use the energy of knowing your goodness to progress forward in your purpose.
Hurt Feelings: Remind us of how much we care. When I share my business, which is a drive for me to create a better life for my son and help others with their needs, there are people who choose not to join me. The sensitive side in me could allow myself to be hurt by why someone wouldn’t support my business and the compassionate woman could have hurt feelings for why they don’t want more for their family or themselves. However, that it perspective. That person just doesn’t see it as a match for their needs right now, and I move forward in my business success without him or her.
I consider the expansion of one’s comfort zone necessary in the evolution of becoming more. It’s funny how much people can find small steps to be a big deal. On Friday, I went to a fundraiser to raise money for the Chicago Youth Centers by myself. I met some nice new people, and I gave my money to a worthy organization. It doesn’t matter if the people I met lead to business growth, personal growth, or just a nice evening out. However, many people were so impressed that I would just come to a charity event solo and had a lot of respect. I have respect for those children who are choosing to make more of themselves at a young age.
I promise to continue to expand my comfort zone which helps me live my definite major purpose which provides my personal pivotal needs of liberty and true health.
I always keep my promises. Cathy
Today and everyday, I am grateful and celebrate life!