What is the purpose of the emotion you are feeling?
I am grateful for each and every day in life. Being the youngest of 7 children, I could have been the “spoiled brat” as many would say. I never felt a sense of entitlement in that role. In fact, I was quite the opposite. My desire was to be doing the fun things my older siblings were doing. Because I am a visual and kinesthetic learner, coming in last was an advantage as I had 6 older siblings to watch what worked and what didn’t. I continue to use that skill with every human being I encounter. I will mimic and learn from your strengths, especially if they are opposing to my own. I will watch the things that challenge you and see if I can’t find an easier and more efficient way to get the work accomplished. It is for this reason that I believe persistence has not been a problem for me personally.
I was certainly not a spoiled child. My family was blue collar in an affluent suburb that was primarily filled with white collar families. I wore hand-me-downs more often than not as that was practical. It taught me a sense of independence as if I wanted a new article of clothing or something else, I worked for it. My first job was in second grade being a “mother’s helper” to a woman down the street with young children. She paid me $2 per hour to play with her young children while she would cook and clean. It was a win-win situation for both of us. She got more work done, and I made money to save up for what I wanted.
I have never really understood negativity and complaining. As a matter-of-fact, I love that I have a friend who says, “I am allergic to drama and negativity.” I add to that, “I am allergic to drama, negativity, anxiety, anger, and any other needless emotion.” What is the purpose? When I am given a challenge, I think let me work on a solution. In my world, complaining is a waste of time. When I am talking about a challenge, I am analyzing the situation to come up with possible solutions. Then, I pick the solution that I believe will work best, and I do it. If it doesn’t work, I re-evaluate where I am at with the challenge as it stands, and I move forward with another solution.
Let me be clear, we are all human beings and not robots. You are allowed to have feelings as am I. I make choices with the feelings that I find unproductive to work through them and move forward. I see the less than positive feelings as a shower that you take and come out clean to go on with your day. Those people who want to live in the “dirty” feelings are allowed to make that choice. However, I choose not to surround myself in the emotions of others that do not feel clean for me. True health in my definition is being physically, mentally, emotionally, relationally, spiritually and financially healthy.
As we finish up Scroll III in “The Greatest Salesman in the World” by Og Mandino, there is a great paragraph that I wanted to share that enhances the way that I view this part of life:
“I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.”
Think of the people you admire the most. Think of their attitudes. The law of attraction comes down to like draws in like. Who do you want to be like?
I promise to live my definite major purpose everyday which supplies my personal pivotal needs of Liberty and True Health.
I always keep my promises. Cathy