Chipping Away at the Concrete!
I have gone through many changes recently as I strive to provide the best life I can for myself and my son. As I stand today, I am a single mom to a wonderful 6 year old boy. In 1994, I was a front office supervisor for the Palmer House Hilton which led to someone recruiting me to become a branch manager for Bank of America. While at the bank, I was also recruited into the field of exercise. I enjoyed teaching classes before completely leaving banking in 1999 for a full-time career in fitness. As an assistant area-supervisor for one of the largest health clubs chains, a former instructor recruited me to contract to Northwestern Medicine. The world was my oyster, and I had no fear. I enjoyed stints on television with fitness & wellness segments, regularly taught & hosted a cable access exercise show, and was privileged to broadcast 10 White Sox games right before I was married in August of 2004.
I found that my life, like it does for most people, changed over time. I chose to cease exploring further entrepreneurial or career endeavors as I had great and relatively stable business clients & contracts. I chose to not take as much time for myself, family, and friends. After my greatest life’s gift, the birth of my son in August of 2009, I chose to adjust my work-life. I appreciated the return to only part-time work 3 1/2 days per week. It was a balance of being the “hands on” mom that I so enjoyed without losing my career. It was a privilege that I was able to afford to do that at that time. In less than 2 years, between a tough economy and daycare costs, it appeared the only choice was to put in as many hours as I was able while still being the primary caregiver to my son. Then, came the adjustment of being a single mom in which I chose to put myself in a completely different financial situation. I chose a career path where in order to live my comfortable lifestyle, I worked hours that are not possible to be the mom I choose to be to my son. Therefore, I had some new choices to make into how I could remain an entrepreneur or go find a “stable” 9-5 job that did adhere to those hours in order for me to care for my son.
Sunday, 9/27/15, we are to write our Definite Major Purpose (DMP). One would think that I should be able to do that with my solid business background. Frankly, as a mother to a young boy, I wanted to start writing about caring for our basic needs. Is this really my definite major purpose? I am an example to this young boy who already talks about the company he is going to have and the things that he will make. Am I going to set the standard that a roof over your head and providing meals is all for which he should strive? Then, I thought about the story of the Golden Buddha that was shared with us. What happened to the Golden Cathy? Do I not want more for myself and my son than the basics? Someday, when my boy is an adult and no longer living with me, will I just be hanging out in the hope of the possibility of becoming a grandma someday or getting through each day waiting for my mortality to cease? No, it is time to bring back Golden Cathy!
Today and everyday, I am grateful.